I find with gaming in particular, a lot of non-gamers don't understand how much time, effort, and thought can be put into it. I think they still have images of like, PacMan or Breakout in their heads. It's kid stuff and a waste of time, obviously. So they don't get why someone would be sitting at the computer/in front of the TV for hours at a time. If I explain it as "this is like my bowling night" people start to grok it a little better, but there still seems to be this cultural disconnect about it. Even so, I don't need to necessarily understand something in order to give my partner space to enjoy it.
I mean, I don't get the appeal of Let's Play videos at all. Watching other people play video games is the most boring shit in the world to me, even if they're making snarky commentary, because I'd rather be playing the game myself. But I don't begrudge Y. her enjoyment of them. She gets her enjoyment of games in a different way than I do, and that's fine. When we play WoW together, I let her get in the passenger seat of my rocket, and I sail around showing her cool places. I know she'll never be a hardcore nutjob like me, and it's cool. We still have fun. It just comes down to respect for your partner, to me.
I'll never understand the people who hook up with someone, knowing they have a hobby, and then force them to give it up because they disapprove. It's like when I used to go on eBay looking for old D&D books, and I'd see the giant lots for auction that just screamed, "I'm getting married and my SO is making me give up D&D." That used to make me so sad. Like...who does that to someone they love? Unless the hobby's like, sneaking off to crack houses and going on benders, let the poor nerd be.
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I mean, I don't get the appeal of Let's Play videos at all. Watching other people play video games is the most boring shit in the world to me, even if they're making snarky commentary, because I'd rather be playing the game myself. But I don't begrudge Y. her enjoyment of them. She gets her enjoyment of games in a different way than I do, and that's fine. When we play WoW together, I let her get in the passenger seat of my rocket, and I sail around showing her cool places. I know she'll never be a hardcore nutjob like me, and it's cool. We still have fun. It just comes down to respect for your partner, to me.
I'll never understand the people who hook up with someone, knowing they have a hobby, and then force them to give it up because they disapprove. It's like when I used to go on eBay looking for old D&D books, and I'd see the giant lots for auction that just screamed, "I'm getting married and my SO is making me give up D&D." That used to make me so sad. Like...who does that to someone they love? Unless the hobby's like, sneaking off to crack houses and going on benders, let the poor nerd be.