I myself couldn't date someone who didn't have at least vaguely compatible interests (one thing that really did bother me about J is that she pretended to have interests that she really didn't - like reading - and I didn't figure it out until I was already committed). But I know people who do it, and do it successfully, so that's why I said it was good but not necessary. I'm willing to say that it's more important for geeks, just because we spend so much time and energy on our hobbies, and if you have incompatible hobbies, you just don't see each other - but I've known nerds who had mundane spouses, so it's possible.
N and I gamed totally differently (he's a strategy gamer, I'm a casual RP/adventure gamer), but we did it in ways that didn't involve the other, so it was just fine. A new game would come out and I'd be like, "Well, I'll miss you." But he was always very good about "staying in touch" even when he was spending most of his time Gating with Baldur or whatever. I suppose, even if you don't have the SAME hobbies, they need to be compatible - take similar amounts of time/energy/etc. He gets Poker Night, she gets Raiding With Her Clan night, or whatever.
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Re: Long comment is long
Date: 2010-11-27 04:15 am (UTC)From:N and I gamed totally differently (he's a strategy gamer, I'm a casual RP/adventure gamer), but we did it in ways that didn't involve the other, so it was just fine. A new game would come out and I'd be like, "Well, I'll miss you." But he was always very good about "staying in touch" even when he was spending most of his time Gating with Baldur or whatever. I suppose, even if you don't have the SAME hobbies, they need to be compatible - take similar amounts of time/energy/etc. He gets Poker Night, she gets Raiding With Her Clan night, or whatever.